Can Love Be Explained?
Love is a concept that no one can really explain. No one loves in the same way and all relationships are what I call different types or levels of love. For instance, you don’t love your parents the same as you love your friends. The same goes with a spouse. You love pets, food, objects, and even books and movies. So what exactly is love?
In a few days, my boyfriend and I will be celebrating our 5th anniversary. With every anniversary, I always feel a little nervous. For some reason, I’m afraid I’ll suddenly wake from the best dream I’ve ever had and be back in college looking at him and knowing he’ll never look at me the same way. Otherwise, I’m just amazed that everyday our love has grown, no matter what has happened.
Love to me is more than just an emotion. It’s an entire state of being. You either love or you don’t. This is one of the few things in life that is never just half way. It can cause you great pain or great joy, or both. However, the joy should always, always erase the pain.
Hearts get broken, but the love of others helps to heal the wound. With every scar, your ability to love grows stronger. I know there are plenty of people who will disagree with me, especially anyone with a heart ache, but it’s true. I have loved and lost friends, boyfriends, family, and pets, but I’m still alive. At the time, I always remembered thinking that there was no way I could love again, but the strangest thing happened, I did love.
Love means opening yourself up without realizing it. Suddenly one day you realize that it’s too late to create a wall. Just like that the pain subsides and becomes only a memory. Instead of holding you back, it makes you want to love more. The reason, you know how great it feels to love and respect it all the more for the heart ache that comes with loss.
When you truly love, you never have to question. It may be frightening at first, but it’s also exciting. To be able to love and be loved is a gift that we can all give and receive. Loving my boyfriend, friends, family, and yes even pets is what makes me me. It makes me a better person and I must say I much happier person.
So what is love? If you can truly define it, it’s probably not love. If you can find a solid, sensible reason, then well, you’re thinking too hard. Love isn’t something to think about, it’s something to experience and feel. Love is what you make it. It’s different for everyone and always will be.
All I know is that I’m grateful and very lucky to have so many people that love me. I’m also lucky to have found the most amazing man to spend my life with.
